Faith-Based Therapy for
Marital Relationships

Build a Relationship That Lasts Through Eternity

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Happy, Fulfilling & Peaceful Marriages

Couples are equal partners, and their contributions have real worth. They want confidence that their marriage will endure the trials and struggles of mortality and last through eternity.

DESIRES IN MARRIAGE

Couples throughout the entire world want the same thing. Regardless of faith, years together or nationality, couples want to feel happy, safe and secure within their bonds of matrimony.

BEING FAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE

Lust is often a contributor in breaking a marriage.

"There are those married people who permit their eyes to wander and their hearts to become vagrant, who think it is not improper to flirt a little, share their hearts, and have desire for someone other than the wife or husband. Cleave to your spouse and none else." -Spencer W Kimball

WORDS & ACTIONS

Couples want their spouse to show love through acts of kindness, in addition to verbalizing their love. They also enjoy hearing frequently, “I love you” not just on special occasions. They desire evidence through actions to match those romantic words.

PUBLICALLY & PRIVATELY

The relationship should be modeled in private as well as in public. Children should know their parents love and cherish each other. Couples should not be timid in letting their neighbors, family and friends know of their love and respect for their each other. 

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"Every divorce is the result of selfishness on the part of one or the other or both parties to a marriage contract."

-Spencer W. Kimball

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Marital Relationships

COMMON ISSUES

Problems often occur due to selfishness, lack of good budgeting, and poor communication. Entrapment in addictions, extra-marital affairs, impulsivity, narcissistic behaviors, unrighteous dominion, and feeling the need to fix one's spouse, frequently leads to the demise of a marriage. 

The key lies in having eyes wide open to our own faults and partially closed to the faults of one's spouse—not the other way around!

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LOOK INWARD FIRST

A stubborn, hard and inflexible heart is toxic in a relationship. Success in marriage depends largely on couples' ability to focus on improving themselves rather than trying to reshape their spouses. 

Maintaining an attitude of negativism, criticism, and blame only fuels the flames of discord. When both spouses contribute to a marriage, it becomes a happy, fulfilling and peaceful marriage.

Clients learn proven techniques that have worked in both my marriage and in the lives of dozens of happily married clients.

I share real life examples from my marriage of 54 years and assign homework that creates opportunity for couples to learn and practice skills which strengthen their marriage.

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ASSESSMENT

I review each individual's strengths and weaknesses. I assign homework to reduce or eliminate weaknesses and magnify strengths. 

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LEARN

I teach correct marital principles and help couples practice these new skills. Together we find useful applications at home and in the family environment. Couples see consistent improvement equal to the efforts they put forth.

PRACTICE

Clients practice these newly learned skills in my office as well as at home. They are assigned dozens of marital homework activities and opportunities to improve in problem areas.

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I have been impressed with Gordon’s attention to detail. He has helped me recognize what matters most, and improve spiritually, emotionally, physically, and find ways to live independently moving forward.
-S.F.

Marital Divorce from a  Spouse with Two Addictions

I have been in counseling with Gordon Foote for about 5 months. I began seeing him when my marital problems, combined with my spouse's two addictions, reached a point where I knew I needed additional perspective and support. I have been impressed with Gordon’s attention to detail, ability to focus on the main issues at hand, and how expertly he ties the gospel into each session. Having the gospel at the center of our assignments has helped me to keep an eternal perspective in the midst of going through a heartbreaking divorce. He has helped me recognize what matters most, and improve spiritually, emotionally, physically, and find ways to live independently moving forward.

-S.F.

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Gordon T. Foote, LCSW

I am NOT the healer; I provide the skills and techniques through focused homework assignments. Once learned, practiced, and applied, individuals gain the joy and personal satisfaction of being in a healthy relationship. They find help healing wounds and move forward in happy marriages.

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He supported me emotionally and mentally by helping me develop the confidence to move forward with faith to find a job, prepare for future relationships with men, and be a good mother.
-L.D.

Marital Infidelity and Sexual Abuse of My Child

I unexpectedly found myself feeling broken, lost, and ridden with anxiety when I found out that my husband had been unfaithful throughout our marriage and had sexually abused one of our children.  I was struggling with the effects of betrayal trauma and could not comprehend how I was going to be able to rebuild my life as a single working mother raising young children on my own.  The first therapist I met with was a great listener and validated everything I said, but she didn’t equip me with the aid I was searching for.  

Gordon Foote was my second therapist and he provided exactly what I needed.  He assigned me homework by way of reading material on topics such as codependency, parenting, and strengthening my testimony.  He also gave me questions to ponder and journal about as I reflected on what I read.  Gordon and I then discussed what I learned at my next session.  By putting forth the effort to sincerely do my homework and apply the principles I was learning in my life, I grew and changed immensely.  A friend even mentioned that she noticed a difference between the time she first met me and my state of being a year later. Gordon assisted my spiritual growth by helping me recenter my life on Jesus Christ.  He also supported me emotionally and mentally by helping me develop the confidence to move forward with faith to find a job, prepare for future relationships with men, and be a good mother. He was a caring mentor and I recommend his services to anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation as I did.

-L.D.

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